The theme for this month is 'Cozy Season', because there is something about October that year after year makes me feel cuddly, inspired, and all around happier. Maybe its the crisp air that makes me want to don sweatshirts and turtlenecks, or the changing autumn leaves that inspire me to create beautiful art. Maybe its the activities that come with the season of fall and early winter, things like pumpkin patches and watching scary movies and using the season as an excuse to get friends together to do all sorts of random fall themed activities. But whatever it is, this time of the year is hands down the best and a big reason for that is because of the pure cozy energy that radiates off of it.
A quick search on pinterest for cozy energy will bring up a lot of products. Things like blankets, candles and rugs are common items associated with cozy vibes, and lots of blog posts are written suggesting what expensive rug you need to put in your bedroom so you can live a better, cozier life. But to me, having a cozy energy is less about accumulating objects and putting forth a presentation that screams coziness, and more about having an all around lifestyle that embodies the concept of being cozy.
So here are some easy, non-material ways to cultivate cozy energy.
Spend Meaningful Time With Your Friends
Don't just sit around playing Mario Kart World Tour on your phones and not talk to each other. Schedule a meaningful activity, like getting lunch, going to a museum, seeing a live band at the park, or visiting a local event that's taking place. Write it in your planner. Stop what you're doing to show up for your friends and to show them that your relationship with them matters. The warm fuzzy feeling of friendship is the ultimate cozy vibe.
Eat Food That You Like
Don't shy away from your love for waffles or muffins. Indulge in your comfort foods every now and then rather than restricting your eating habits to only make way for food that fits into a diet. Eating food that you like always brings good feelings with it, bonus points if you cook it yourself and eat it with company.
Stare Endlessly At Your Favorite Part of Nature
If you love the clouds find a nice patch of grass and spend a significant amount of time looking at them. If you love lakes or rivers, locate the nearest one, pull up a chair, and stare out at the glimmering waves. If mountains are your thing find one and go on a hike, or pull your car over on a scenic overlook and enjoy the view. Sit in the park and look at the trees, visit your local botanical garden and smell the flowers, go on a bird walk and listen to the sounds of the forest. Spending time in nature is always cleansing for the soul, and a good way to make your heart feel cozy.
Revisit Old Favorites
There's nothing quite like nostalgia to make a person feel cozy. Listen to the songs you used to love back in middle school, or rewatch TV shows and movies you used to be obsessed with. Revel in the memories of simpler times, and be thankful for the wonderful life you've been blessed with. Thinking about the good old days always leaves me with a bittersweet feeling, but at the end of the day revisiting those memories and the positive feelings that went with them always makes my heart feel warm.
Find an Emotional Support Scent
Okay bear with me on this one. You know those smells that just take you back? Like you walk past someone and their perfume reminds you of such a specific point of time in your life that your heart aches? Maybe its the smell of fall in general that can take you back, I know it does for me. Lately I've been encountering familiar scents that I can't always place, but that make me feel happy because of the subconscious memories I've associated them with. I've deemed these particular smells 'emotional support scents' because they'll be there for you to pick you up when you're feeling down. So indulge in one, or a few. Find the lotion your Mom used to use or the car air freshener your Dad always hung up and let the smells take you to a cozy place.
Over all, being cozy is about enjoying the simple things in life. Its about smiling, feeling warm inside, and feeling at home with yourself and your life. Its never too late to turn things around, and while New Years is typically the time people collectively start over, I always felt like fall was a much better time to start fresh. As F. Scott Fitzgerald said, "Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall."
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